Rest Stop (Tuesday) … take the time

life, journey, rest, stress, anxiety, peace, zen, spirituality, religion, psychology, God, Jesus
zen dog (credit: unknown)

I feel that we can learn so much from dogs (and other pets too, I am sure), but this post is not about dogs.  Actually, I plan to write a post about what we can learn from our canine friends, but for now, let’s look at our zen (not canine) self.  “Zen” comes to us from the school of Mahayana Buddhism emphasizing the value of meditation and intuition and not ritual worship or study of scriptures.  Looking deep within ourselves for life’s answers and direction is not new, nor is it old.  Many religions and current trends in psychology respect the notion that each person knows themselves and so is best equipped to work through their own life issues.  While I recognize this is an oversimplified understanding of both zen and modern psychology, for the purposes of this post, suffice it to say that I would agree with the notion that we are equipped with the tools we need to work our way through life’s difficulties.  So, if this is true, why are so many people “lost” and struggling?  Why are spiritual guides and counselors so busy?

I believe the answer to those questions lie in the fact that we generally do not spend enough time in quiet reflection, thereby losing the ability to understand ourselves.  In our present society we are bombarded with “noise”, and in the midst of the noise we are so busy running around that we don’t have time for ourselves.  That is the key.  If I don’t take the time to find out what is happening inside of me, nor the time to listen to myself, then I miss the opportunity to learn from myself.  This is the “secret” of why most (not all) counseling is effective; the client is taking the necessary time to listen to themselves through another person.  Since I am a counselor by profession I am not at all diminishing the need for professional counseling, but, professional counseling aside, I feel that spending time for ourselves will go a long way to our well-being.

I hear people say “that is all well and good, but taking time for me is just selfish”.  Phrases like this are common, and although truthful in their telling, they are not helpful.  I am not at all advocating selfishness or a culture of self-absorption (I think we already have that), rather, taking the necessary time to help oneself.  A prime example to illustrate what I am saying is the all too common safety instruction provided us on an airplane.  Prior to take off we are told, in words similar to these:

If there is a loss of cabin pressure masks will fall from the ceiling.  If you are traveling with a young child,  place your mask on first, then place the mask on the child.

For the longest time that phrase bothered me.  Why would I take care of myself before assisting a helpless child?  How could I begin to breathe fresh oxygen while the child next to me is panicking?  But, how could I not?  If I am struggling with getting the mask on the child and I pass out due to a lack of oxygen before finishing the task, then both I and the helpless child are in trouble.  If I can take care of my need to then be able to properly care for the child then we both are safe.

In many of my blog posts I write about steps we can do each day to allow us time for at least a brief meditation (use my search engine to find those posts).  Here are a few steps you can do to create a zen moment:

  • Find a quiet place to either sit or walk
  • Give yourself at least 10 minutes
  • Close your eyes or focus on a particular object
  • Pay attention to your breathing
  • To quiet your mind, slowly repeat a simple phrase or positive word

Take time for yourself now so that when needed you can be available for the “children” in our lives who may need us to place an oxygen mask on them when they feel a lack of “cabin pressure” in their lives.

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4 thoughts on “Rest Stop (Tuesday) … take the time

  1. You are right, from experience it is very difficult to help another person who is in a panic or knotted up emotionally, if I am not measurably calm myself… I also find that slowing my walking and movements down actually ‘speed up, actions and make them more effective. Thank you for this post.

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