Where I live it has rained now for five days. Everything is wet and damp, and I haven’t seen the sun in as many days. Some moments the rainfall is heavy, but most of the time I am living in a thick mist. If I lived in London or Seattle I wouldn’t even be mentioning this, but I live in an area where this weather pattern is not typical.
Please don’t misunderstand what I am saying, for I am not complaining. Rain does not bother me; the cloudiness of the sky does not dampen my mood. Actually, I feel a sense of nostalgia and longing in weather such as what I am experiencing. I grew up in an area with weather that was cool and cloudy for much of the year. I imagine myself sitting in a comfortable chair, soft music playing in the background, reading a good book and reflecting on the moment. In an ideal world I would be smoking a pipe, but I am told that is not healthy (although a nice addition to my fantasy image).
How we perceive or view the world around us makes a difference how we feel about ourselves. I know that many people don’t view this week’s weather in the same way as I view it, and that is fine. I am not writing this to say that my way is the “right” way to perceive my environment; but I am saying that the way I feel about this weather is the “right” way for me. What do I mean?
How you feel about the weather, or your environment or current life situation, etc, is your reality. As the saying goes, “it is what it is”. I won’t argue with the meaning of that statement as I believe it to be true. But just because “it is what it is” does not mean “it always has to be this”. If you are not happy with how you feel about your life, in this moment, as it is, then change something in yourself. Yes, change something in yourself.
The other day, as I travelling through Maryland, I took this picture of a wall cloud in an advancing storm system. A wall cloud is a sign of impending dangerous weather, and although scary to many, I see beauty in its form.
Just as I don’t have the power to stop this wall cloud from forming, or the power to end the rain, or the power to change another person; I do have the power to make changes within myself. I can’t stop a destructive storm cloud, but I can make preparations for my safety and the safety of others. I can take action to avoid the storm or properly ride out the storm. I can choose to either look at this wall cloud and feel fear, or look at this wall cloud and see beauty. These are my choices; and with my decisions I live with the outcome.
Honestly, there is no “right” or “wrong” in our view of the world around us. Our view is our view. But, if my view causes me emotional pain, then I need to find a way to not feel pain. In my experience, the only way not to feel the emotional pain is to view the situation from a different perspective and to take some action to make the change you need to make to change how you feel.
The power is within each of us. Find your power, learn of your strength, and use that power for the good. It is not easy, but it is doable. I know from experience.
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